A good decision maker transcends the Ego (for speakers, traders, designers & many more!)


I think it was Sigmund Freud who talked about the id, ego, and superego. According to Wikipedia, The ego acts according to the reality principle; i.e. it seeks to please the id’s drive in realistic ways that will benefit in the long term rather than bring grief. At the same time, Freud concedes that as the ego “attempts to mediate between id and reality, it is often obliged to cloak the [unconscious] commands of the id with its own [preconscious] rationalizations, to conceal the id’s conflicts with reality, to profess … to be taking notice of reality even when the id has remained rigid and unyielding.”  The reality principle that operates the ego is a regulating mechanism that enables the individual to delay gratifying immediate needs and function effectively in the real world. An example would be to resist the urge to grab other people’s belongings, but instead to purchase those items.

The ego is the middle construct which can get stuck due to unwavering selfish position, delaying soul progression to higher states of consciousness. I’ve discovered the most pertinent difficulty we face in our existence has a lot to do with the way we perceive life. It’s a fact that Two persons look at the same image and come up with different interpretations. What works for one person may not work for another. Like they say, ‘One man’s meat is another man’s poison.’

Relativity of Ego vs Knowledge

As we make decisions on a daily basis whether to be or not to be, To go or not to go, To put or to call, To fly or not to fly, To do this or do that… we are passing through an awareness machine every minute of the day…And this in itself is a balancing act to move our life in the direction most suitable for our life’s journey. Regardless of our motivation for making these T- junction decisions, there’s a planetary law set in motion along the path which decides what to reward.

In an effort to address this middle path, let’s review results and processes involved in the lives of so many great men and women who have graced this planet, and come to the knowledge of the attributes they all share.

What do these people have in common at crossroads transcending the ego?

More the Knowledge, lesser the Ego. Lesser the Knowledge, more the Ego….

Albert Einstein

Here are 5 attributes of a good decision maker

1. A good decision maker Set limits

A good decision maker set and maintain clear boundaries between who or what they let in their space, and they are very assertive about where and when to entertain projects or people who do not belong in a place at a given moment in time. Personal boundaries are the imaginary lines you draw around yourself which no one should cross unless invited in.

Reversal: Be careful about pulling the plug on faltering projects. While limit setting is generally a good thing, economically viable projects, or future rewarding partnerships should not be terminated just because you feel honour-bound to establish your boundaries. Sometimes you do not have a clear idea of what you will put up with and what you won’t until it actually happens.

2. A good decision maker Identify threats

Danger can be spotted miles off by travelling into the future to sniff it’s cleanliness. Threats that masquerade as calculated risks are easily unmasked through a foolproof problem solving and decision making skills. The gift of  foresight is an immaculate weapon in the Arsenal of a powerful decision maker. Once you can identify the threats around you, it gets a whole lot easier to stay vigilant and be firm, resolute, strong, and assertive.

Reversal: Be aware of the damage you’re doing  when you’re making up danger to gain awareness for the sole purpose of aggravating already built-in tensions. Be careful never to get caught by a nasty neighbor who is already paranoid about your intentions. You need to know if the changes you are making are actually making things better or worse. Be for the glory, not the degradation.

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3. A good decision maker Go with the flow

It’s not only plain stupid to go south when the waves are going North, it’s a suicide move to go against the currents. Forget what you knew and let the waves carry you safely to shore. Refuel when you dock at harbour, and embrace big brother nature for the spirit of camaraderie. Cheers for staying alive!

Reversal: Going opposite the currents can be beneficial if the tides have turned against you momentarily to test your resolve. You’ve taken a risk, a decision contrary to a proven path in the hope the tides will turn in your favour and the currents will eventually flow your way. There’s no guarantee Mother Nature will reward you on this occasion. Nevertheless, you’ve made the move to challenge a wave. If you’re swept away, better luck next time. If the tides turn your way, welcome to safe arrival at harbour.

4. A good decision maker Builds

Remember the Biblical story when God told Noah to build an ark? Yes, he carried on building regardless of public opinion. Sometimes it’s wise to build when you are convinced and guided by your inner light. A good decision maker will carry on building until the task is complete. Equipped with sufficient Knowledge that supersede the enemy, the builder is justified by the outcome.

Reversal: If you can’t afford it, don’t build it. Knocking it down instead of building is the best course of action if you must build something new and better. Knowing when to gather and build or a tool kit and a stout rope is the skill to learn. Here, timing and precision is everything. As soon as you get a broader view of the situation on ground, let the enemies hit the wall while you go in for the kill.

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5. A good decision maker is on the side of the Angels

The problem is that no one is going to tell you exactly what constitutes an angel or a beast. A good decision maker sets the parameters. But come on, it can’t be that difficult. I think an awful lot of it is self evident. “Are you part of the problem or the solution?” You have to take this choice for yourself alone. “Will things get better or worse if you do certain things?” As you invent, “Will you leave the world better than you met it?”

Reversal: Being a beast in order to ward off those who are determined to cut your angelic wings is not only just but a good fight of faith. You can of course watch, as an impassive, objective, observer and think to yourself: “I wouldn’t have done it like that”. Or “I think they just don’t get on with angels”. Or even, “Gosh, how beastly”. But you don’t have to say anything.

Look, no one said this was going to be easy.

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